Huffing

[Rita]

I just discovered my son doing this does anyone have any advise on how to handle this situation without beating the life out of him .. I am so angry and hurt I don't know what to do any advise will be happily accepted thanks

[Deleted]

Wow, i don't really know what to say that could help ......i know this kinda thing has been around for years and it's very dangerous....a good whoppin is a place to start

[nofeargardener]

Depends on how old your son is. If he's in his teens, he may be past the age of the ole switch (of which I'm a fan). The key is for him to understand how hurt you are, and specifically why you're hurt (i.e. he could wind up dead on the floor, trust betrayed, leads to other drugs, etc etc). Might be good for you guys to sit down at the computer together... maybe research some of the ill effects that come from huffing. Might be good for him to see how graphic that can get. The key is to appeal to his heart. That's where the real change happens.

It's also important for kids to see their parents practicing what they preach. Kids are smart. And they can sniff out hypocrisy like a blood hound. I'm NOT suggesting that you aren't practicing what you preach. Just sharing it 'cause I know it to be true. I can read the Bible all day long with my little kids, and tell them that they need to be kind to each other, but if they see me regularly acting like an "a-hole," to them and others, they're probably not going to want anything to do with me or my Jesus.

Just my opinion. I hope you guys can work this out together. I really do. Sorry Rita. Hang in there girl.

[Christy]

Sorry to hear this Rita Big hug to you!
Depends on which boy. The younger ones we parents still have a standing with, the older teens ha yea right, most think we never lived life. n dont know what were taking about. find out why he did it first n go from there, an outsider like a councler would help if its your oldest boy. they would listen to some one who's "been there done that" before they would you. you could even take them to a AA meeting n listen to the members n talk to them.
Really every kids different n they do things for different reasons, Id say 8 out of 10 kids try drugs cause of peer pressure. or curiosity, more than most the time its NOT because of what the parents do. If that were true you know Id be one messed person. heck we both would be pretty messed up

[Deleted]

Rita Im sooo sorry to hear that.
Im no expert but im gonna guess its experimentation.
I would however take Christys advice and seek some sort of counseling,for both you and your son.
About 4 months ago My youngest son (17) began cutting himself and tried to overdose on prescription pills.
he voluntarily went for treatment (2 weeks in the hospital) and learned there are many many kids just like him and younger who have problems or are just curious.
Today he is fine,he takes meds as directed and is working a good summer job.This fall he starts college for of all things pysiology.

1.) DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF
2.) DO NOT BLAME THE CHILD
3.) AS HARD AS IT MAY BE REACH OUT FOR HELP!

HERE IS A VERY GRAPHIC LINK you can show him as to to one of the dangers of huffing connect2utah.com/news-story?nxd_id=90716

Play the video and make him watch it with you.
If we as parents dont take action with our kids someone else will!

My thoughts and prayers to you and Keith
X

[Rita]

I am going to sit and have a good talking to with him .. he is at my sisters house right now and Yes its Tylind ... He is 17 band about 6'2" so beating is out of the question outside the good ole smack in the back of the head ..Thinking this has been going on for a while beings that my whole can of lacquer thinner is empty
Thanks for all your comments some of these suggestions are helpful and we will see how things go I will keep you updated

[mogarden]

Rita it saddens me to hear about this. Another young life started down the wrong road. The counseling someone suggested sounds like it might help, I hope so.

[lucy]

So sorry to hear this Rita. Hope you get this problem under control. It's so sad. But he is still young and can def. turn around! Don't give up on him. I agree that showing him how much it has hurt you and to show him what it leads to may help. Praying for your family.

[Christy]

Sorry Rita, huggs to yens! You know Ty has been through alot in his life. I think a good councler would help alot. for both of yens. Ty should really see one but it would also help you to talk to one too. it might help you to understand and help Ty better.
I agree you should let him know how much it hurts you n your fam, BUT he got to get help for him. not anyone else. He needs to know He is worth it.