Post by kansasterri on Aug 6, 2010 18:57:59 GMT -6
I visited my folks for a week, and left DH to deal with my over-emtional teenagers and any new crisis, as I was worn down to a nubbin.
You know, the problems are still coming, but I am rested and they do not bother me much. Well, OK, the household air conditioning went out 2 days before I returned and I have bought a new one (Broken fan, flying bits of metal, slicing up the vital parts) but it is only work and it is no longer overwhelming. And, Ron can take the pickup to the auto repair place next to his job (that went out also) but it is STILL not overwhelming, as DH will do it. And the fact that the kids fought while I was gone and my MIL's house sold-and I have POA- nope. Still OK. There is
NOTHING! like sleeping all night KNOWING! that nobody will wake you up with yet another big problem.........
I am REALLY proud of my kids, who dealt with the repair man and DH called the repair man from work to give his CC number.
So, I am happily home and shopping, which has ZERO emotional stress level. The new air conditioner goes in Monday morning, and the local grocery is having its Fall meat sale and tomorrow I will stock up.
I am gonna restrict myself, as much as possible, with one stressfull activity a day and so not get myself in such a state again. Because vacations are few and far between, and most of the people who are relying on my should NOT be leaning that heavily! It took a vacation away for me to realize that.
So I will not drive my oldest around until she starts learning to drive -which she has been avoiding as she prefers me to drive- and it is NOT my problem if my SIL did not pick up her stuff until 2 weeks after she was supposed to and half of it is gone (I WILL call about that to track the stuff down but it is NOT a priority), and, lastly, if my youngest wants to pick arguements that is *HIS* problem and I do NOT need to smooth ruffled feelings yet again. Nope.
There is nothing like getting rested enough to have some perspective on what I should and should not be doing!!!!!!!!!!
You know, the problems are still coming, but I am rested and they do not bother me much. Well, OK, the household air conditioning went out 2 days before I returned and I have bought a new one (Broken fan, flying bits of metal, slicing up the vital parts) but it is only work and it is no longer overwhelming. And, Ron can take the pickup to the auto repair place next to his job (that went out also) but it is STILL not overwhelming, as DH will do it. And the fact that the kids fought while I was gone and my MIL's house sold-and I have POA- nope. Still OK. There is
NOTHING! like sleeping all night KNOWING! that nobody will wake you up with yet another big problem.........
I am REALLY proud of my kids, who dealt with the repair man and DH called the repair man from work to give his CC number.
So, I am happily home and shopping, which has ZERO emotional stress level. The new air conditioner goes in Monday morning, and the local grocery is having its Fall meat sale and tomorrow I will stock up.
I am gonna restrict myself, as much as possible, with one stressfull activity a day and so not get myself in such a state again. Because vacations are few and far between, and most of the people who are relying on my should NOT be leaning that heavily! It took a vacation away for me to realize that.
So I will not drive my oldest around until she starts learning to drive -which she has been avoiding as she prefers me to drive- and it is NOT my problem if my SIL did not pick up her stuff until 2 weeks after she was supposed to and half of it is gone (I WILL call about that to track the stuff down but it is NOT a priority), and, lastly, if my youngest wants to pick arguements that is *HIS* problem and I do NOT need to smooth ruffled feelings yet again. Nope.
There is nothing like getting rested enough to have some perspective on what I should and should not be doing!!!!!!!!!!
You go girl!! Life is not always easy but there is a time and a place for everything !! I try to not stress out as much as possible but ... Drama has a way of wiggling its way no matter what ... I have learned to be brutally honest with people .. its amazing how many people don't want advice when your are in their face honest ... 
Most people expect you to blow smoke 
aint easy. I always tell myself "and this too shall pass" when the stress starts. 
When mine were in there early teens they had friends with parents who let them do anything. 
I use to tell my son, sorry bout your luck boy, you gotta mom that care's! 