My Marriage????

[lucy]

The end of the rope keeps coming closer and closer. I just don't know what to do. Sorry to bother you all with this but I have nowhere else to turn.

[mogarden]

OH NO. I guess it is bad in a way...BUT if it just HAS to be, then maybe it's the start of a new life for you. A better life without whatever is troubling you now. I hope you can find a way. Good luck!

[Rita]

This is just horrible news ..
I must agree with Mo on this... But don't let everything slip by without trying if thats what you both want ..
Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to

[spuds]

Prayers sent Lucy.

[Deleted]

Sorry to hear about this lucy, but remember, you have to do what is best for you.....good luck.

[bluelacedredhead]

I've been there and I can appreciate what you're going through Lucy.

With that said, sometimes being single again is a vast improvement. It's tough to leave. The thought of being alone can be terribly frightening. But it's a chance to pursue your interests and perhaps a career that you've longed for, to make friends that are yours and not his.
If you are afraid of him coming after you, there are agencies and safe houses for women in many towns and cities. Do some research now so that if you decide to leave, you already have a place to go.

I'd like to offer an ear too for the times when you feel you've bothered Rita enough

[Deleted]

Lucy, I've been there - I was not in an abusive situation, and we're still very good friends with my ex, but getting divorced was one of the BEST things that has ever happened to me. Without it, I would not have met, fell in love with and married Da Honey - the most wonderful soulmate. My first marriage lasted almost 17 years of "oil & water", she decided she liked someone else better, and they got married only to be divorced just a couple of years ago. Da Honey and I are going strong with 22 years and counting.... Sure, my heart hurt for awhile, but the Lord heals all wounds. You are in our prayers, - love ya, Cybersister!

[Pharmer Phil]

Lucy, I'm sorry to here this...Time, patience and communication may save it, I'm praying for You...

[kansasterri]

Lucy, gentle !!!!!!!!!!

[Rita]

Feb 3, 2012 8:50:00 GMT -6 bluelacedredhead said:

I'd like to offer an ear too for the times when you feel you've bothered Rita enough

I don't think I am ever bothered .. I love all my peeps here and care about all of them
I too have been in divorced .. Got married at too young of age the first time at 16 stayed for almost 10 years .. out grew him and have been with my Keith for 13 years now .. best friend I have ever had .. its very hard to let go and even worse when all the anguish is still fresh in your head .. I know you love your family ..
Maybe its a good time to perhaps go and stay with some family for a little bit .. and see how things go when you re connect

[lucy]

Ok, I have tears in my eyes as I type this and a much lighter heart. I knew I loved all my phamily phor a reason! Times like this are the reason. I don't tell my family my problems, my friends are too busy with their own lives. So, I keep everything to myself. And it builds and builds until I can't take it anymore. First of all, THANK YOU TO EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU! Second, I'm not in a violent situation. I am just so tired of being dismissed. Like what I want or need doesn't matter. As many of you know, I love to ride my 4 wheeler, it gives me peace of mind, I call it my therapy. But it has bad tie-rods and I dont' want to get it out by myself. Dustins(the one he and Darrell ride) won't start and hasn't for months and Darrell won't even try to get it out and see what is wrong. Like Dustin's Jeep, starter been out for months and he hasn't touched it. So, I need to get out and go to clear my mind. Out to take pics is my thing now. But Darrell doesn't want to get out of the house. He doesn't want to go anywhere. The thing the other night was his family went on a trip and invited us to go. We didn't have the money and Bub was sick too. But Bub said it sucked that he was sick and couldn't go and Darrell sd oh, he's just having jon withdrawals(his friend he spends alot of time with). And I flew off, he knows Dustin is like me, he loves to go. I grew up with a Dad that loved to go and took us all the time. I'm not used to someone who is content to get out of bed and sit on the couch until time to go to bed again. But if I mention going somewhere, he starts we can go in the evening. If I'm doing pics. I need sunlight. When I ask him about fixing the 4 wheelers, he can't. He's gonna get someone to do it. Just goes on and on. But today, I went hiking by myself and took some pics and really enjoyed myself. I can't talk to him. I talk when he's sober, it's yeah, we'll go, yeah, I'll get so and so to look at the 4 wheelers. But at nt after a few beers, when I try to talk, I get dismissed. Like I don't matter. I would leave for a few days, but I have nowhere to go.

[Penny]

I am so sorry to hear this Lucy .....do you have a friend/family that you could stay with for awhile.

Maybe leaving for a bit would give him the kick in the ass that he obviously needs .....as others have said, you need to do whats best for you , Bub's older and he'll adapt .....huggs to you, and keep us posted.

[w8in4dave]

Sorry your having a hard time I hate to hear the D word . I have been there done that also. But it has put me in a better situation.... My prayers are with you ........

[jack]

Gidday

Well I am on the other side of the world and it appears the other side of the fence as well.

I find this a terrible sad story. I may have been reading something between the lines that isn;t there but I really feel so bad for the both of you. I believe that there is unemployment there that is rotting your relationship to the core and that your poor man has been overwhelmed with the worries that are resulting from your situation. I have been there and done that and it really is agony for the man who likes tpo believe his role in the relationship is to provide, but he just cannot.

Please, if I am right, have pitty on the poor bugger and try to see things his way. He will be breaking in two over how things are going down hill and simply not know what to do and in desparate need for support.

I suppose I have stuffed things up by saying this but so ofeten good marriages crash through the want of a bit of effort to make them work.


Shut up Jack.

[Christy]

Sorry to hear this Lucy..
It might be hard to talk to your hubby but you gotta tell him how youb feel! get it through somehow..

I cant really give good advice my marriage wemt to hell. but everyones stiustions are diffrent cause every one diffrent.
I hope the best phor you and hope yens can work it out, just dont give uyp without a fight, least you can say ya tried your best ifn it dont work out, or you'll know you have sumthing to fight phor.

Rita was there phor me in my time, she is the best! a very good phriend. I bugged her lost